They met in Junior High. My son Brett, an avid hockey and soccer player, a bit of a clown, not particularly studious, but with blue/grey eyes and a smile that would melt hearts (and charm a few teachers) he was well liked and fit in nicely in his new school. He hadn’t wanted to change schools initially, but when Lauren, a close friend, was going to switch from the school they both attended in Cochrane, to a private Christian School, Brett made the decision to switch too so “she wouldn’t be alone in a new school.” he said. It helped us too because his little sister was already attending the school and we were able to carpool each day with Lauren and her younger brother and sister. A few weeks later Chandler was introduced to me as one of Lauren’s friends and pretty soon wherever Chandler was, Brett seemed to be close by.
They attended the “Fall Ball” together at their school in 2007 and I have pictures of the two of them, my son with his long hair and bangs that covered his eyes and Chandler with a wide smile and a mouth full of braces. Through junior and senior high, Brett and Chandler were the “on again, off again” couple. I lost track but Brett said that they broke up and got back together again at least eight times during those years but they never seemed to lose their friendship. They attended their grad together; I called them the “power” couple with her in a white, black and gold gown and he matching her with his gold tie and vest. Brett had borrowed his Dad’s 1969 black Charger for them to drive to the banquet in style! They knew that God was calling Chandler to Victoria, B.C. to go to university, and Brett was going to work for a couple of years trying to align himself with what God’s plan for him might be. They promised to stay in touch but when Chandler left for school, it was obvious that she had taken a little piece of his heart with her. There was a spark missing from my son’s life.
My son is not a really communicative guy. I sensed how much he missed Chandler although he seldom verbalized how he was feeling. We decided to go to Victoria to visit friends and Brett jumped at the chance to visit Chandler and a couple more friends from high school who were also attending the University of Victoria. It didn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that after that weekend re-united with Chandler that my son was in love.
For the next year they had a “distance relationship” and phone bills (at least from my son’s side) were starting to add up. When she came home to Calgary, they attended church together and grew together in the Lord. They never wavered in their commitment to each other or in their devotion to God. I had prayed from the day my son was born (as I have prayed for my girls as well) to find a Godly spouse. In Brett’s case, to find a woman who would love God with all her heart, mind, soul and strength and to love and cherish my son. A girl who would be constantly striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman. My prayers were answered on January 22 when Brett asked Chandler to marry him.
They are young. So was I when a young lieutenant asked me for my hand in marriage. That was 36 years ago. I believe wholeheartedly that if they trust in God and trust in each other, they will be okay. Will they have challenges? Of course, but that’s when they will grow together to find strength in each other and they will learn to lean on God even more earnestly than they do now.
The next few months, my son and his fiancé will be planning a wedding day. After that they will embark on a life time journey together. I pray they will always remember that “In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps.” (Proverbs 16:9) When they hit some of those life-journey U-turns that so unexpectedly happen, may they always remember that God is in control.
For now, these two young people are planning a wedding and I am asking my readers to help the young couple out by “liking” a Facebook page and then voting for Chandler and Brett. You only need to register your vote once, but it would be a huge blessing to them to win this Ultimate Wedding Package. Just click on the link below and you will be directed to the page:
I thank you in advance for your help!