Back in the Day

I-miss-the-good-old-daysI don’t like to admit it, my husband is in serious denial of course, but with him having celebrated a birthday “milestone” – he calls it a “millstone” hahaha…we have to accept the fact that we are not “whippersnappers” anymore!  Born in the 50’s, children of the 60’s, teens of the 70’s, young marrieds of the 80’s, survivors of the 90’s and parenting teens in the new millennium…yep…we were once “Baby Boomers” but now we’re looking forward to our retirement years.

I remember MY parents talking about the “good ole days” and my being bored to tears hearing how they played with a tire rim and a stick for fun; Ice cream sodas and cherry colas that cost less than a quarter; poodle skirts and bobby socks, all the fashion rage.  Now I find myself reminiscing about my childhood to my kids, and I see their eyes roll and they zone out in the same respectful boredom.

A friend sent this to me the other day and I couldn’t help but smile.  To those of you who are reluctantly heading into those middle aged years, enjoy!  To their children and mine…go ahead and zone out for awhile, but one day you’ll be looking back and it will be YOUR kids tuning YOU out.

TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED THE 1930’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, and 80’s

First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant.

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, ate tuna from a can and did not get tested for diabetes.

We were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright coloured lead-based paints.

We had no childproof lids, locks on doors or cabinets, and when we rode our bikes, we wore baseball caps not helmets on our heads.

As infants and children we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags.

Riding in the back of a pick-up truck on a warm day was a special treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and no one actually died from this.

We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter and bacon.  We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar and we weren’t overweight…Why?

Because we were always outside playing…that’s why!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day.  As long as we were back when the streetlights came on and in time for supper, our parents didn’t worry about us.

No one was able to reach us all day, and we were okay.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps of lumber and then ride them down the hills and forget we had no brakes.  After running into the bushes a few times we learned to solve the problem…or we didn’t care because it was just as much fun to crash into the bushes!

We did not have Playstations, Nintendos, and X-Boxes.  No iPhones, iPods, or computers.  There were no video games, cable T.V., PVR’s, DVD’s, surround-sound, internet, Twitter, Facebook or YouTube.

WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents.

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, and made up games with sticks and tennis balls and although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes.

We rode our bikes or walked to a friend’s house and knocked on the door or rang the bell or just walked in to talk to them.

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team.  Those who didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment.

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of.  They actually sided with the law!

These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever.

The past sixty years have seen an explosion of innovation and new ideas.

We have known freedom, failure, success and responsibility and we learned how to deal with it all.

If you are one of them, Congratulations!  Consider yourself lucky to have grown up during those years before government regulated everything in our lives “for our own good”.

Tell your kids so they know how brave and lucky their parents were.  Better yet…tell them to turn off their X-Boxes, computers, and iPods for a couple of hours and go out and toss a ball with them.  Don’t be ashamed to tell them of the “good ‘ole days”, because they were some of the best years of your life!

 



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A Tangled Web Indeed

“Oh what a tangled web we weave,

When first we practice to deceive!”

Sir Walter Scott, Marmion, Canto vi. Stanza 17.

“You have eyes in the back of your head, Mom!” my daughter complained when I caught her in the act of doing something she knew I would not approve of.  She was only a child then, but my kids have many times complained that they could not “get away with anything” and often wondered how it was that I could discover so quickly any of their little acts of rebellion or wrong-doing.  I told them that God answers prayer, particularly my one prayer that He would catch them in their “sin” before they would be irreversibly harmed.  God honoured that prayer through each of my children’s lives as they grew into adulthood, however I discovered that there were still times that God allowed them to wallow awhile in their rebelliousness to teach them valuable life lessons.  He taught them that there are always consequences to sin.

My kids know that one of the worst things they can do is to lie to their father and me.  No matter how much they may try to cover, bend, sway, misdirect, make excuses etc., their lies always seem to come to light, and there are always consequences.  Our family values honesty and all of us know that it is better to admit up to it right away rather than add dishonesty onto it.  Committing a wrong is one thing, lying about it is far worse!  We are all very aware that once caught in a lie, it will take a VERY long time for trust to be restored.  It is one of those consequences we must face when we choose to deceive.

I am convinced that no one can get away with lies and deceit…whether they believe in God or not.

I am amazed that in a world that is so interconnected through the internet and social media that there areProverbs 6 16-19 still people who think they can “get away” with sin and attempt to cover it up with lies and deceit.  Cases in point: the Ashley Madison scandal, and Josh Duggar’s most recent confession as a result of that.  There is also the discovery of the Subway spokesperson, Jared Fogle possessing child pornography.  Recent marriage breakups by celebrities who have knowledge their spouses were cheating on them.  The Duffy trial here in Canada that has politicians caught in a political web of lies and deception.  If we haven’t figured it out, “Big Brother” is alive and well and watches our every move.

As Christians we are watched by those who want to see if we are indeed the hands and feet of Christ as we claim we are, or are we fakers that show false witness to the world around us.  Oh, we can admit (confess) our sin before God and man but there are always consequences to sin and if the world discovers our falsehood, deception and hypocrisy it will take a VERY long time to regain their trust…if ever.

Sin leads to death.  Repenting and turning from sin leads to life.  (Romans 6:23)  It is hard to admit wrongdoing.  It is hard to say sorry or I was wrong or I messed up.  It is hard to turn from sin and repent but that is needed to know freedom and gain forgiveness and salvation from God.  There are consequences when one sins.  God will not rescue you from those consequences, but He will forgive you and be with you through those consequences.  God sees the heart of a person and He roots out lies and deceit.  You can’t “get away with anything” with God, and for that I am truly thankful.

 

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THE CARD

It started as a lark in 1975.  We were in Gr. 11.  We didn’t have a lot of money, and what little money we had, we didn’t really want to spend.  We called it being “basically cheap”.  So my friend bought me a cheap birthday card, a “Peanuts” character – themed card with Linus on the front standing under a sign that reads: “No Littering” and inside: “This is the age of Ecology..don’t throw this card away…Recycle it to a friend!”.  Believe it or not, recycling wasn’t even a craze then.  It was a funny expression that was used sporadically amongst local David Suzuki followers but truly nothing more than that.  So when I received the card from her I laughed.  What an odd concept…recycle a birthday card!?

I have not sat down and calculated how many miles THE CARD, as we have affectionately come to call it, has traveled these many years.  Jean and I have exchanged THE CARD in person quite a few times, but we have mailed it back and forth more often between Calgary, Alberta (where I live) and Victoria, B.C (where she lives).  In 1990 I laminated the original card as it was showing some signs of falling apart and we inserted a new card.  When that card was  filled with b.day well wishes, we added a third card in 2006.  All three cards, the original and the two “inserts”, are fondly referred to as THE CARD, and twice a year we mail them to each other; in April to celebrate her birthday and in August to celebrate mine.

THE CARD is a unique symbolic expression of our lives together as friends and briefly describes what has happened in both our lives over these many years.  In 1984 I signed the card, “Happy Birthday, Jean from your pregnant friend, Lynn”; in August 1991 Jean signed, “Happy Birthday, Lynn! from your friend Jean! (gotta run, the baby’s crying); in 1995 (THE CARD was twenty years old) I wrote “from one pregnant friend to the other”; in 1998 “Happy 40th to us both!”.  In April 2001, I wrote, “Happy Birthday, Jean, from your soon-to-be hairless friend, Lynn!!” and she returned the card in August with “Happy Birthday to my soon-to-be non-hairless friend!!”  That was the year I was diagnosed with breast cancer.  In 2008 we exchanged THE CARD on the same day with the “Babes of ’58″…five friends together for the first time since high school celebrating our 50th birthdays together.

THE CARD has become one of my most prized possessions.  I have learned to keep it in a safe place; both Jean and I are almost paranoid that we will one day misplace THE CARD.  I know on one occasion I was in a near panic trying to find it after a house move so now it gets safely tucked away in a keepsake box right beside my bed.  We are equally paranoid if Canada Post should somehow lose it.  I’ve thought about sending it by courier but that would defeat the purpose of being “basically cheap”.

Someone asked if our card exchange might be a worthy candidate for the Guinness Book of World Records and I suppose it might be…perhaps there is actually a category that would fit sending the same Birthday Card back and forth for so many years, I don’t know.  That’s not what this is all about anyway.

THE CARD commemorates friendship and life!

…oh, and being basically cheap!

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