Proud to be Canadian

On July 1, 2017, Canada will celebrate its 150th Birthday!  I remember vividly celebrating Canada’s 100th Birthday in 1967.  My class along with many others had been invited to sing in front of the Parliament Buildings in Victoria, B.C., and the song of choice was Bobby Gimby’s “Ca-na-da” song.  It was a stirring, patriotic, and catchy little tune, with easy-to-memorize lyrics for children.  After having rehearsed it for months, it also became a tune that was always stuck in my head, and to this day I can still remember all the words!

I am proud to be a Canadian!  I have been fully immersed in the culture, the uniqueness that is “typically Canadian” since I was born.  I applaud the efforts of those who have contributed positively to Canadian society and stand proudly whenever the National Anthem, “O’ Canada” is sung.  I love seeing the Maple Leaf flag fly high at sporting events, as well as on buildings and properties all across this great land.  This land is vast, unconquerable, and exploring it one province at a time might take a lifetime, but that’s one of my goals…to visit each province and territory before God calls me Home.

Canadians, for the most part, do not take themselves too seriously.  One of our over-generalized traits is that we’re too polite, and being so easygoing we can laugh at ourselves and our little idiosyncrasies just as much as those who like to poke fun at us.  Luckily, we enjoy to mess with the less knowledgeable nations who still believe every Canadian lives in an igloo and has a polar bear for a pet…(sorry big neighbour to the south :))

On July 1st, my husband and I will be Ottawa, and we will stand with a million of our closest friends there on Parliament Hill waving our flags and watching the fireworks.  We will likely not be around for Canada’s bi-centennial so we thought we needed to make the  pilgrimage from Alberta to our nation’s capital and join in all the festivities there.  I am looking forward to the trip but I am also praying that in the midst of these patriotic celebrations God will be high and lifted up!

Did you know that the “supremacy of God” is Canada’s founding principle?  This is the preamble to the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms: “Whereas Canada is founded upon principles that recognize the supremacy of God and the rule of law …”  Certainly, over the years, many have tried to have the wording changed, to erase “God” from the document but so far have failed in their attempts.  These are challenging times in our nation, with many rejecting the Word of God.  I pray that as we celebrate this special birthday and move towards our bi-centennial fifty years from now that God’s principles will still continue to be lauded and respected in this country.

I pray that fifty years from now my grandchildren will be excited to celebrate Canada’s bi-centennial, not merely because this country will be two hundred years old but because our nation continues to believe in the supremacy of God.  May we always remember and heed the warning from scripture:  “The wicked go down to the realm of the dead, all the nations that forget God.”  Psalm 9:17

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25 Encouraging Scripture Verses for Father’s Day

The other day I heard two little boys arguing on the playground about how brave and strong each of their Dads were.  It almost came to fisticuffs between them as they tried to regale one another about how “great” their Dad was over and above the other Dad.  I love the fact that in each of those little boys’ eyes, their Dad was a super hero.

While Mother’s Day still surpasses Father’s Day in popularity (at least amongst the card sellers and florists), Fathers are equally deserving of praise.  Accordingly, some credit the first Father’s Day celebration to Sonora Smart Dodd for honouring her father, a veteran of the Civil War, who raised his family as a single Dad when his wife died giving birth to their sixth child.    To show her appreciation for her father’s efforts, after listening to a church sermon on Mother’s Day in 1909, Sonora initially suggested that there should be a day to celebrate him and other dads like him in the State in which they lived and farmed.  After much campaigning, the first Father’s Day was held in Washington State on June 19, 1910.  Although Father’s Day was celebrated throughout the U.S. as an unofficial day for Dads after that date, it was in 1966, Lyndon B. Johnson, through an executive order, designated the third Sunday in June as the official day to celebrate Father’s Day.  It wasn’t until 1972, during the Nixon administration, that Father’s Day was officially recognized as a national holiday.

I have enjoyed these many years seeing what tokens of appreciation my three kids will come up with to honour their Dad.  I usually get flowers and overly-sentimental cards for MY special day, but my husband can get anything from cards that emit bodily noises when opened, to power tools.  Unfortunately, while I am pampered for the most part on Mother’s Day, my husband stations himself at the BBQ grill on HIS special day and hosts the family dinner.  Somehow he never seems to mind!

So to all the great Dads out there, have a Happy Father’s Day!  Let these verses encourage you today and everyday!

Genesis 18:19  “For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just, so that the Lord will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.”

1 Timothy 3:2-5  “Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.  He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)

Proverbs 4:1-4  “Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding.  I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my teaching.  For I too was a son to my father, still tender, and cherished by my mother.  Then he taught me, and he said to me, “Take hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands, and you will live.”

Joshua 1:9  “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

Deuteronomy 6:1-9  “These are the commands, decrees and laws the Lord your God directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess, so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the Lord your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life.  Hear, Israel, and be careful to obey so that it may go well with you and that you may increase greatly in a land flowing with milk and honey, just as the Lord, the God of your ancestors, promised you.  Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.  Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.  These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.  Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.  Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.  Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”

Ephesians 6:11-18  “Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.  For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.  Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.  Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace.  In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.  Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.  And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”

Psalm 103:13  “As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him.”

Joshua 24:15  “But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”

Proverbs 3:11-12  “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.”

Deuteronomy 1:29-31  “Then I said to you, “Do not be terrified; do not be afraid of them. The Lord your God, who is going before you, will fight for you, as he did for you in Egypt, before your very eyes, and in the wilderness. There you saw how the Lord your God carried you, as a father carries his son, all the way you went until you reached this place.”

Proverbs 14:26  “Whoever fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for their children it will be a refuge.”

Psalm 127:3-5  “Children are a heritage from the Lordoffspring a reward from him.  Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth.  Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.  They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.”

Proverbs 23:24  “The father of a righteous child has great joy; a man who fathers a wise son rejoices in him.”

Proverbs 22:6  “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”

Ephesians 5:25-37  “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.  After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body.  “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”  This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.  However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

Ephesians 6:4  “ Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”

1 Corinthians 16:13  “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.”

1 Chronicles 29:17  I know, my God, that you test the heart and are pleased with integrity. All these things I have given willingly and with honest intent. And now I have seen with joy how willingly your people who are here have given to you.”

Proverbs 10:9  “Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out.”

Proverbs 17:27  “The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.”

Proverbs 20:7  “The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them.”

1 Thessalonians 2:11-12  “ For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children,  encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory.”

Luke 15:20-24  “So he got up and went to his father.  “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.   “The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’   “But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet.  Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate. For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ So they began to celebrate.”

Psalm 128:3-4  “Your wife will be like a fruitful vine ithin your house;
your children will be like olive shoots around your table.  Yes, this will be the blessing for the man who fears the Lord.”

1 Corinthians 13  “If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.  If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.  Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.  For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.  When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.  For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.  And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

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Finding Contentment in Just Being Me

A long while ago, I bought two new bathing suits.  When I returned home from my shopping trip, my daughter had me model the suits for her and she cried…

Now you might think I would have been slightly insulted by her reaction but I wasn’t at all upset…

and here’s why…

She wasn’t crying because she thought I looked like a tube of toothpaste squeezed in the middle…

She wasn’t crying because she was worried that I would have to sit on a public beach under a “whale on the beach” sign…

She was crying because I was actually comfortable enough with my “new” body that I could model a bathing suit.

You see, I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001.  After having a mastectomy followed by chemotherapy, I went through the most physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually challenging two years of my entire life.  In fact the first time I saw myself after surgery, I wondered if I would ever dare to wear a bathing suit again.

We place a lot of stress on ourselves as women and mothers.  We buy into the commercials that say we must look a certain way, or be a certain weight, or keep house like Martha Stewart.  If the picture gets skewed at home, meaning we can’t measure up to these perfect ideals, we put huge guilt trips on ourselves and we add more stress onto ourselves as we attempt to change into what we believe is the image of perfection.  It is no wonder that we have no “peace” in our lives if we are never really satisfied with how we look, where we live, or how we act.  I’ve actually coined a phrase that describes this: Superwoman Syndrome.

We try to be everything, do everything, attempt everything so we can measure up to this perfect standard the world has somehow created.  In my house, shortly before my cancer diagnosis, I signed my kids up for soccer, hockey, piano, skating, choir, and anything else that everybody else was doing because I did not want my kids to be left out of all these opportunities!  So while my children were benefiting from all these activities I was taxi-ing them all over the place, and we were eating fast foods because there was no time to cook.  A fact that made me even more guilty.  My house hadn’t been cleaned in weeks because I’d been standing on the sidelines of some soccer field cheering on my child rather than on my knees washing a floor at home.  And even though it was great to do these things with my kids I always had this twinge of guilt that my house was a huge disaster area.

Then of course there were job commitments back then.  I was a seminary student, I worked on staff at my church and being a wife, mother, student, writer, etc. I barely could find ten minutes of good quality time with my husband a day, let alone spend any quiet time with God.

Then of course there was the outer me.  (I’ll admit I still feel this way…) I can’t leave the house without my hair looking just so, and my makeup on…

Oh… and I forgot to do the laundry, and the dog needed to be fed, and I hadn’t watered my plants, or picked up the dry cleaning;  one child needed a button sewed on, and another child was having a social crisis, and then there were blogs to write, books to edit, etc., etc., etc….

Do you get the picture?

Psychologists will tell you that many of their women clients are counseled primarily because they have a deep dissatisfaction with their bodies, and they harbour so much guilt because they do not measure up to what they believe is the perfect woman or the perfect Mom.  In the Tom Baker Cancer Centre in Calgary there is a whole psycho-social department geared towards women who have gone through breast cancer…why?…because women who suffer from breast cancer are radically changed, outwardly because of surgery, and inwardly as they try to cope with their disfigurement and the disease itself.  They no longer feel they are a complete woman, and they struggle trying to come to grips with not being the perfect picture of a woman anymore.  Not to mention the fear that accompanies the knowledge that you have been diagnosed with a life-threatening illness.

One of the Fruits of the Spirit is Peace.  The peace that is spoken of here is not necessarily the peace that comes by controlling warring factions in Iraq or stepping between two battling siblings, or quieting a colicky child.  The peace of the Spirit is something that is referred to as a “peace that surpasses understanding.”  It could be considered a peace that cannot be easily defined because it defies explanation.  There is a difference between being peaceful and having inner peace.  You can attain a peaceful state by calming down your hectic pace, pampering yourself, reading or doing things that make you feel good.  But an inner peace comes with the knowledge that we are made in the image of God and God has created this beautiful world and He is a God who is in control of everything and everything He has made is good.  It is a state of mind that allows ourselves to let go of our circumstances, release our cares and rely solely on God.

My life verse is: “In his heart a man plans his course but the Lord determines his steps.”  Proverbs 16:9

It took nearly a year for me to fully grasp that truth.  It was a year where I came to understand what it meant to have a “peace that surpasses understanding”.  I gradually developed a quiet acceptance of my new body image.  Of course I would have liked to never have experienced cancer, but God allowed me to go through the experience and if I believed He had a plan and a purpose for my life, I also had to believe He had a plan and a purpose behind my getting cancer.

The incredible opportunities I have been presented with since cancer have testified to God’s faithfulness.  I have a peace about my circumstances.  It doesn’t mean I totally understand why things happen the way they do but I’m OK with it.

Do I still struggle with trying to be Superwoman?  Yes, but now I don’t beat myself up about it when the house is a dust bowl or we’ve lived on fast food a couple of nights a week.  I enjoy life more.  I see life differently and I am amazed more by ordinary things.

I can honestly say that I am no longer so self-absorbed with the “outer” me.  That’s not to say that I neglect the outer me, after all I did go through reconstructive surgery in 2002 and although my body image will never be what it once was I am so thankful to be a breast cancer survivor and present to you…the new and slightly improved “me”.  I even laugh at my bad hair days because at least I have hair to have bad hair days!

I know as women we get caught up by how we look and with our outward appearances, but today I would like to challenge you to spend as much time on the inner you as you do on the outer you.  I want you to celebrate YOU today.   Today when you look in the mirror, don’t look at the little flaws, or the extra pounds, or the onslaught of aging.  Try to see yourself as God sees you, precious in His sight.  Today pamper the outer you, consider how you will pamper the inner you.  A friend sent me this wonderful poem while I was battling cancer.

There is a Place By: Val Conner

There is a place where acceptance is found,

a place of peace and contentment

Where fears subside

And smiles of hope exist

Where warm embraces have long since replaced cold shoulders

And I can be me.

There is a place where freedom of expression is welcomed

Where “sincerely” describes a life lived honorably

And not merely impotent words penned at the end of a letter

Where the distance between opposing views

Is measured for it’s diversity, not measured by its intensity

And I can be me.

There is a place where one’s value is based on “Whose” you are, not “whom” you are

Where the barometer of success is gauged by the attitude of one’s heart

Not the platitudes of one’s performances

Where life is valued because it is a gift –

Regardless of gender, race or geography

And I can be me.

There is a place where beauty lies not in the eyes of the behold’en, but solely in the eyes of the Begotten

Where one’s spirit describes the splendor of one’s presence, and the measure of one’s age is the compilation of past memories – not years passed

Where the shaping of one’s mind is

More important than mindings one’s shape

And I can be me.

“There”

This place I long to be –

Where the law of the jungle is but a fable,

Where darkness finds no place in which to cower,

Where we are not merely acceptable in His sight –

We are the accepted by His side.

Where joyful todays are always followed by joyous tomorrows –

And tomorrows are forever,

“There” is the place I want to be –

But not just yet.

For now, I choose to dwell here;

To fulfill the purpose He has chosen for me.

To be a refuge and a reminder

For people – like me –

Of His Peace

And of their

Acceptance,

Value, and

Beauty.

To touch every soul I can,

As if it were His touching mine,

And to willingly follow Him down the road He has selected me to travel.

For here – in this place –

I am ever mindful that as I place my hand in His

I am learning that I am exactly where

I can be me.

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