Empty Nest Syndrome

Empty NestIf you will indulge me…

It’s been a very topsy-turvy summer.  My “baby” turns eighteen in a few days, and I am feeling the throes of “letting go” once again and letting the last of my children fly from the safety and confinement of the nest into the world.  You know what that means, don’t you?…

Empty Nest Syndrome

Well, not sure it’s appropriate to be called a syndrome yet, but I am certainly feeling the emptiness of the house with just my husband and I rattling around in it.  We moved our youngest into seminary residence last night and even though she only lives minutes from our home, every time I walk by her room, I feel a pang of loss.

We bought this acreage and house, just north of Cochrane, Alberta, when my son was only a toddler, and my oldest daughter was just a child.  Our baby was born a year after and this house has, for close to twenty years, been filled with birthday party celebrations, pool parties, and youth activities.  It seems so silent all of a sudden.

Someone said to me that once the kids move out I’ll have plenty of time to write.  Wow.  I wish I could feel some comfort from that statement, but I haven’t been able to write all summer.  Oh, I blog a bit but my heart hasn’t been into sitting down and completing that manuscript that beckons to me every once in a while, taunting me with its incompleteness.

And amazingly to say…I’m okay with it.

As a Christian, and a writer, but mostly a Mom, I  know that there is a “season for everything”.  I have to adapt to this next season of life for me now without kids in the house everyday.  I plan on taking a couple of months to establish a new routine, a new normality if you will, for my days.  Certainly that manuscript may be added onto in the months ahead but right now the focus is connecting with my husband like I did “BC” (Before Children), and settling into my new empty nest role gracefully.

Thankfully my kids know that they are just a text message away from their Mama, and my baby even has my permission to bring over her laundry weekly and I’ll even wash it all for her; I won’t even grumble about it.

Wow, things really HAVE changed!

 

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Friday Funny – Tattoo You

My blog on Tattooing the other day seemed to cause a bit of discussion…which is what I wanted.  Many people have responded not only on the post itself but also on my Facebook page.  Today I poke a little fun at those who have had “buyer’s remorse” when it comes to getting inked.  I call these Tattoo Fails

If you must get a Tattoo, please ensure that your Tattoo artist is licensed, adheres to strict health guidelines AND can SPELL 🙂

Belive

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And last but certainly not least…this “artistic” Dove Design.  For obvious reasons I thought this was “WUNDRFULL“!!  Hahahahaha!

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Tattoo or not to Tattoo

Regret NothingAs a youth leader I have run into my share of ink.  Literally.  At a Summer Youth Camp several years ago, we were playing a game on the field and I, in my wisdom, thought I could take away a large “globe” ball (about the size of a small house), from a young man who was determined to run over the “old” lady with it.  He won.  However, as I was crashing to the ground I noticed as he waved his arms in victory, a ginormous-sized tattoo on his arm.  It was spectacularly colourful, but the skull and cross bone symbol was somewhat disconcerting at a Christian youth camp.

As a youth leader, I was sometimes privy to whispered conversations amongst some youth who were thinking about getting “inked”.  My students have always known how I feel about tattoos….I’m not a fan.  When one young man added an eyebrow piercing to his recently inked body, I wished I could have been a fly on the wall at his father’s house.  His conservative father was going to be in for quite a shock.

My own son wanted a tattoo for years.  When he turned sixteen, he begged to have one.  I said, “No”.  My son respected me enough to wait until he was nineteen and then had a large angel-wing with a cross tattooed over his shoulder blades.  His favorite scripture verse Phil. 4:13 was inked on a banner draped around the cross.  As much as I wasn’t pleased with the idea of his getting the tattoo in the first place, I had to admire the beautiful artistry of the design AND I remarked that now that he had forever emblazoned Phil. 4:13 on his body, he better LIVE the verse everyday: “I can do all things through Him Who gives me strength.”

My niece has several tattoos, my daughter’s friends have tattoos and try as I might to convince her otherwise, my youngest daughter would like to get a tattoo one day.

As a Christian, I was curious to see what scripture says about tattoos:  For more information please go to this very informative article: http://christianity.about.com/od/faqhelpdesk/f/tattoochristian.htm   The Bible says in Leviticus 19:28, “Do not cut your bodies for the dead, and do not mark your skin with tattoos. I am the Lord.”  However, if we look at this verse in context, this was one of many examples of God telling His chosen people to not participate in the pagan customs of the day.  God’s people were to be set apart and not participate in rituals or festivities that were for the most part idol worship.  In verse 26, they were also told, “Do not eat meat that has not been drained of its blood,” and verse 27, “Do not trim off the hair on your temples or trim your beards.”  These are Old Testament laws that we must agree, that in today’s society, Christians no longer strictly adhere to.  Truth be told, I am happy that we shave and eat non-kosher food.  I am not the least bit worried that I am breaking any biblical laws by doing so.

That said, I agree with the writers of the above article that says that getting a tattoo probably falls under one of those “disputable matters” from Romans 14.  The Bible is not clear about whether it’s right or wrong in a New Testament church, but it does fall to the person contemplating getting a tattoo to decide carefully what their personal motivation is in getting one.

I am convinced that most people getting tattoos do so to get noticed…especially from the opposite sex.  It is a form of adornment.  It is meant to attract not repel.  Some get tattoos for cosmetic reasons and there are others who ink their bodies in remembrance of something or someone.  A Christian getting a tattoo must ask whether this will bring glory to God.  Is it a form of rebellion?  Will it cause dissention in a family?

Many people say, “It is MY body, I can do with it what I want.”  Johnny Depp is quoted as saying, ““My body is my journal, and my tattoos are my story.”  As Paul says in I Corinthians 6:12, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you.”  Christians know that their body is not their own but bought with a price.  (1 Corinthians 6:20).

Tattoos are permanent and every individual must decide whether or not the tattoo over time is ultimately “good” for them.

I would be interested in your thoughts.

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