Empty Nesting – Week 4

We might be an empty nest but it’s not really been THAT EMPTY…in fact, we welcomed our second grandbaby into the world yesterday, soemptynest[1] our children may have moved out but there’s still a ton of activity around our house right now.

We’ve had the awesome privilege of having our young grandson, Jaxon stay with us for a few nights while his mommy and daddy and new baby sister have been getting some much-needed bonding time in the hospital.  Jaxon, (2 1/2 years old), was well-prepared for welcoming his sister.  My daughter and son-in-law have been amazing with reading to him and talking about his new responsibility of “big brother” ever since they discovered they were expecting.  When I brought him to the hospital to meet his sister for the first time, he immediately felt a connection with her evident in the way he patted her head oh-so-gently and held her tiny fingers.  He was mesmerized!  He was right there watching as the nurses bathed Kharis for the first time, and when she cried, he calmed her with cooing at her and touching her softly on her head.

As I watched my two grandchildren interact together for the first time, my heart was overwhelmed by the way God blesses us with this gift of children (and now grandchildren).  I’m realizing more and more the new role, or season of life, God now has in store for me and I feel immeasurably loved by the Father as a result.

Proverbs 17:6  “Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.”

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Show Me A Sign

8887653For my readers who are not Canadian, this may or may not be unsettling for you.  For those of you who are unaware of Canada’s “divided” status, you might actually be shocked at the fact that we have a “separatist” government nestled nicely in Quebec, but the province itself is still under Federal or National jurisdiction so to speak.  Yeah, it’s wonky, but that’s the way it is.  It’s like having Benedict Arnold sitting comfortably in the middle of all the Knights of the Round Table.  He doesn’t like anything the other knights are doing, and doesn’t want to cooperate with them in any way, but the other “knights” won’t kick him out because they “need” him so there’s not an empty seat around the table.  (I’m definitely showing my Albertan “red-neck” side with that last statement) 🙂

For those of you who do not know, Canada is a bilingual nation, with French and English being the two official languages.  Now I don’t have a problem with that per se, however, when a separatist Benedict Arnold is the only one at the table speaking French, and refuses to allow the other provinces (knights) to speak anything else but French around them, then I have a little issue with bilingualism.  Benedict has thus become a standoffish bully and…well…you know how I feel about bullies!

The latest in separatist Benedict’s, (I mean Premier Ms. Marois’) bullying tactics is a new Quebec Charter of Values that would see all civil servants be banned from wearing any kind of religious symbol. “The plan would apply to judges, police, prosecutors, public daycare workers, teachers, school employees, hospital workers and municipal personnel.”  “One justification given for the supposed need for a values charter is that some instances of religious accommodation have given rise to a “profound discomfort” in Quebec. Yet what there has been of these have been piddling instances, blown out of proportion, over parking exemptions on religious holidays or specialty food served at a sugar shack.”  (Editorial: Montreal Gazette)

The ban would be against hijabs, kippas, turbans, Crosses, the Star of David, etc., and, in my personal opinion, goes against the whole idea of religious freedom we hold so dear here in Canada.

The controversy surrounding this new Charter of Values in Quebec is substantial with supporters and opponents on both sides.  It has surprisingly unified Muslims, Buddhists, Christians and other faiths who are crying “unfair” because they are unable to wear jewellery or clothing that identifies themselves with any religious organization, cult or faith.

Atheists seem to be the most pleased with the turn of events…until of course they inadvertently wear a t-shirt one day to work that identifies them as atheists and are then charged under the new Charter of Values…

I wonder if bumper stickers, magnetic ribbons and those awful “stick family” figures in the back windows of cars will also be subject one day to this Charter?  I mean, where does it end?  I know people who value their sport’s team, or their pets, or their homes, cars, music even more than they do their god.  Will all that fall under a ban eventually too?  I mean will it one day be against the law to show off the colours of your favorite hockey team because it may offend another sports fan who doesn’t share your “belief” in that team.  See how ludicrous this all is???

It will be an interesting time of debate over this new Canadian controversy.  Perhaps it’s time for the good people of Quebec to oust this particular separatist Benedict Arnold (in this case, Premier Pauline Marois) and allow her to go fight stupid crusades like this on her own.  I would certainly like to see Quebec become that gallant “knight” it once was around the Federal round table.

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Empty Nesting – Week 3

inyourhaircor2-1It’s a funny thing.  The kids have moved out but now they seem to want to come home just to chat or spend time with their father and me.  Over the past week, I have had lunch or dinner with each of the children, very spur of the moment, and incredibly pleasant.  I say that because the last few years when they lived at home, they always seemed to be too busy to join us for a meal, either with work schedules or their social calendar commitments.  Then when they were home they would sequester themselves in their rooms and conversation with them was generally a sporadic exchange of information from then on.

What has happened?  We haven’t changed…

My son even offered to pay for an expensive dinner out.  What is the world coming to??

I will admit, I’ve been wondering if they are having ulterior motives for this unusual behavior but so far it’s obvious they just like to “drop in” and visit.  I haven’t changed.  My husband hasn’t changed.  We’re still the same old, same old, talking the same language, doing the same things as we’ve always done while the kids were at home.  What has happened?  If we haven’t changed…gasp!…have they? 🙂

Of course I’m being facetious.  I think I am finally seeing the fruition of “training up a child in the way he should go”, and I know it’s still too early to say for sure, but perhaps they are seeing their parents in a different light as well.  We’re not just the parental units who nagged them to do their homework, or to clean their rooms.  We are not looked upon as their personal chauffeurs anymore, or their chefs, or their management consultants, or money-doler-outers.  In fact, they seem to be actually grateful when we prepare a meal, or offer advice, or buy them something.  Hmmmm…we haven’t changed…gasp!…have they? 🙂

Proverbs 1:8-9 ESV  “Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.”

 

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